Showing posts with label healing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label healing. Show all posts

Monday, November 24, 2025

A Simple Forgiveness Prayer

 Sometimes forgiveness feels complicated, but it doesn’t have to be.

This simple three-line prayer can open your heart, soften your judgments, and reconnect you to the truth of who we all really are.

I see you as you are.
I accept you as you are.
I send you love and blessings.

These words are simple, but their meaning reaches deep.

I see you as you are

In my mind, I allow you to stand before me.
I see your humanness.
Your vulnerability.
Your fears, your foibles, your blind spots.
All the places where you can be difficult.

But I also see beyond all that.

I see the higher truth of who you are.

You were created by God — and God creates using only one substance: Himself.
His energy. His essence. Love.

Think of divine love like an endless current of electricity, flowing freely until something blocks it. That flow is our Source. That flow is our truth. That flow is the God-substance from which we are made.

Here in this earthly experience, people forget who they really are.
They disconnect. They block the current.
And when the flow of love is blocked, behavior gets messy.

But none of that changes the truth of their identity.

When I say I see you as you are, I am choosing to see the whole truth — not just the personality in front of me, but the divine light behind it.

I accept you as you are

We can accept people as they are — not because their behavior is perfect, but because the person underneath the behavior is still holy.

The only real “sin” anyone has is forgetfulness:
forgetting their true source, forgetting who created them, forgetting the love they were made from.

And honestly, we all do it.
Some more than others.
Some more dramatically than others.
But every one of us slips into separation thinking at times.

Acceptance means recognizing:

This behavior is not who you are.
Your fear is not who you are.
Your mistakes are not who you are.

I accept you because I see the larger truth of you.

I send you love and blessings

This is the gift of forgiveness.

When we look beyond blocked love — beyond the temporary ego-self — and see someone’s higher identity, it becomes easy to extend love.

We are sending love and blessings not to the small, confused personality, but to the equal, divine Self within them.

Because:

  • They are what we are.

  • We are all made of the same God-stuff.

  • We are each an intrinsic part of the wholeness of God.

  • We are all precious and cherished equally by Him.

If God can love this person…
If God never loses sight of their innocence…
Then surely, in this moment, we can send a little love too.

This simple prayer opens that channel.

I see you as you are.
I accept you as you are.
I send you love and blessings.

This is forgiveness.
This is freedom.
This is love remembering itself.

Want to go deeper into forgiveness and inner peace?

Let these tools light your path — because forgiveness sets you free.
— Sue Pipal

Sunday, November 16, 2025

Letting Go Without Resignation: A Talk by Rev. Nichola Johnson

Forgiveness and letting go walk hand in hand.

One softens the heart. The other frees the soul.
So when we stumble across a teaching that expands our understanding of letting go in a truly profound way, it deserves to be shared widely.

A Talk That Truly Blew Me Away

Recently, my dear friend, Rev. Nichola (Nikki) Johnson, gave a talk at Centers for Spiritual Living Tahoe-Truckee on the subject of Letting Go.

I don’t often stop everything I’m doing to rewatch a spiritual lesson — but this one?
I’ve already listened three times.

It is packed with insights, stories, and perspectives that gently stretch you beyond wherever you are sitting in your forgiveness journey. Truly, each time I watch it, I hear something new. It’s that rich.

Nikki is one of the most brilliant, charming, deeply spiritual people I’ve ever known. An interfaith minister with a lifetime of contemplative study, she carries wisdom from around the world — including the many months each year she spends in India — and delivers it with such warmth and clarity that you can’t help but grow.


Meet Nikki and Her Work

Through her organization, Shared Wisdom, Nikki offers sanghas, meditations, and soul-nourishing retreats under the beautiful banner of “Fragrance of Joy.”

You can explore her work here:
๐Ÿ‘‰ sharedwisdom.org

And if you want to travel the world with her through images and reflections, follow:
๐Ÿ‘‰ Instagram: @sharedwisdomorg

Her presence radiates joy, depth, and genuine compassion — and this talk is no exception.


Why You Should Watch This Talk

If you are working on forgiveness, acceptance, emotional healing, or simply want more peace in your heart…

This talk is a must-see.

It will:

  • Expand your understanding of what it means to truly let go--you may think you are already letting go, but trust me, Nikki will point out places where you are not...yet

  • Show us how we often clench, grasp and control in an effort to "feel safe" or "create a better life"

  • Help you understand what it really means to truly be in grace

  • Allow you to place even more trust in spirit to create positively in our lives, and that means sometimes allowing spirit to expand on the limited possibilities we see for ourselves

  • Support your forgiveness practice in a powerful new way

Nikki takes the concept of letting go and lifts it onto a whole new level — not as a clichรฉ, but as a living spiritual practice that opens the door to profound freedom.

You will be changed by it. I certainly was:


Want to go deeper into forgiveness and inner peace?

Let these tools light your path — because forgiveness sets you free.
— Sue Pipal

Wednesday, November 5, 2025

Forgiveness Has Changed: From Personal Wounds to Global Healing

Back When Forgiveness Was Personal

I started writing this blog in 2013 and wrote steadily about forgiveness for two years. Then I quit. It wasn’t that I lost interest in forgiveness—I just felt like I had said most of what I wanted to say.

Back then, forgiveness mostly meant working through our personal relationships. People felt betrayed by their spouses and boyfriends/girlfriends, upset with their children, angry at their parents or siblings, and frustrated or bullied by co-workers. Those personal hurts were the everyday emotional terrain many of us lived with. That’s what brought most of us to forgiveness work in the first place.

The Shift to Global Forgiveness

I always taught forgiveness on a larger scale too, and my book touches on forgiving the world and its events. But even then, the focus was mostly personal because that’s where people felt their pain most directly.

Now, it feels like everything has changed. The forgiveness issues many of us are wrestling with today are global.

We still experience pain in our closest relationships, of course. But now so much of the suffering we feel comes from watching what is happening in the world.

War. Cruelty. Famine. Indifference.
People turning away from compassion.
The collective heart seems tired and overwhelmed.

A World Divided

Perhaps the biggest forgiveness challenge of all today is the political divide. In the U.S. — and in many other countries — we are at war with one another. And it is heartbreaking to witness.

We are frustrated, angry, and disappointed with “the other side.” We are loud, reactive, and exhausted. We hurl insults, tolerate deception, and excuse cruelty, all in the name of politics. Everyone seems to believe that they alone know the truth — and anyone who disagrees must be ignorant or immoral.

It’s exhausting.
It’s painful.
And it’s spiritually draining.

Forgiving the World We Live In

I’ve already written about how to forgive world leaders who seem selfish, cruel, or power-hungry. It’s one of the most visited posts on this blog, and for good reason — it touches on something that feels almost impossible to do.

You can read it here:
Forgiving World Leaders

When I work with global forgiveness, I usually start there — at the top.
I forgive the powerful.
I forgive the decision-makers.
I forgive the public figures who seem to be driving division, harm, or suffering.

Then I work my way closer to home.
I forgive the supporters.
I forgive the people who are angry, scared, or misled.
I forgive the conversations that feel like a wall instead of a bridge.

And — this part is essential —
I forgive myself.

I forgive myself for my reactions.
I forgive myself for the ways I add to the conflict.
I forgive myself for forgetting to see the divine spark in others when everything feels overwhelming.

There is a clear, step-by-step forgiveness process in the Forgiving World Leaders post that can guide you through this. If you’d like to participate in this kind of healing work — for yourself and for the world — that post is a powerful place to begin.

Forgiving World Leaders


Photo by Shane Rounce on Unsplash

Healing the Collective

A Course in Miracles teaches that when one person shifts from fear to love, thousands are affected.

This isn’t metaphor — it is how consciousness works.
Minds are joined. Hearts are connected. We influence each other, silently, without even speaking.

Your forgiveness is not just personal.
Your forgiveness is participatory.
It is your contribution to the healing of humanity.

One heart at peace creates more peace.
One mind that stops judging helps others soften, too.
One soul choosing love becomes a quiet light the world can feel.

Forgiveness is how we help heal the world — from the inside out.


Photo by Michael Thaxton on Unsplash

Want to go deeper into forgiveness and inner peace?

Let these tools light your path — because forgiveness sets you free.
— Sue Pipal

Wednesday, October 1, 2025

You Probably Don’t Want to Hear This (and Neither Do I) — But It Has to Be Done

If we're going to have a true forgiveness practice, we're going to have to forgive the shooters.  I know. This is a really hard one.  Yes, I’m talking about the shooters, the people who commit acts that seem unforgivable. And yes, we’re going to explore why forgiveness matters even here

Forgiveness Unblocks the Divine

Forgiveness serves many purposes, but one of the most profound is that it reconnects us to the divine. When we only forgive some of the transgressors, we block ourselves from fully experiencing unity with the great Oneness. True spiritual freedom comes when our forgiveness extends without limits—even to those whose actions shock or horrify us.  And remember, forgiving them does not mean condoning or approving their actions. Forgiveness is about freeing your own heart and opening to love, even in the face of what feels unforgivable.

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Stepping Into Their Shoes

When we begin the difficult work of forgiving “shooters” or anyone who commits acts of extreme violence, a helpful step is empathy. Try to imagine what could cause someone to behave this way. Often, these individuals feel alienated, unloved, or harshly judged. Many were bullied as children, had few friends, or never felt they belonged. It’s not an excuse, but understanding their suffering can soften our hearts and open the door to forgiveness. 

Society’s Role

We can’t ignore the environment that shapes these behaviors. When society normalizes games where children simulate shooting others for hours, what mindset are we cultivating? We are literally training young minds to think in terms of guns and violence, numbing them to the horror and suffering that such actions cause. This societal conditioning contributes to a cycle of pain that extends far beyond the individual.

Why Forgive Anyway

It’s hard. It may feel repugnant. But forgiveness is about freeing ourselves first. Resentment, anger, and fear keep us trapped, while forgiveness releases us and opens the way to love, clarity, and peace. Extending forgiveness—even in these extreme cases—connects us to the higher truth of our shared humanity and to the divine Oneness that unites us all. 

The Simple Truth About Forgiveness

It really is simple to forgive these people. Just remember: they are all children of God, too. God created them, and He loves them. If He can love them, we can at least extend forgiveness.

God sees all of us beyond our crazy actions on this psycho planet. He knows our true goodness because He created us exactly in His own image. He is pure love, and in our ultimate truth, so are we.

All you have to do is hold that thought for these poor, misdirected souls. Feel it in your own heart for a moment or two. That’s what forgiveness truly is: a moment of seeing the higher truth.

Want to go deeper into forgiveness?

Let these tools light your path — because forgiveness sets you free.
— Sue Pipal


Saturday, September 20, 2025

Why the World Feels Like a Psycho Planet — and How Forgiveness Frees

What’s Going On Here?


This place is nuts. 

Psycho Planet


I used to think I was relatively happy, but as I began to study A Course in Miracles (ACIM), it dawned on me just how much true tragedy and difficulty we all accept as normal every single day. We accept rejection. We accept disappointments. We accept frustration, refusals, and the constant “No” that seems to be part of life at every turn. We accept lack—or only some instead of all. 

Life’s Challenges Have Always Been Crazy 

We rarely even blink at the craziest things. We might shake our heads a little, but mostly, we accept that this is just “the way of things” on earth. Why are things set up so that only a few win while so many lose? Only one becomes the head cheerleader, the captain of the football team or the class valedictorian. 

You didn’t get the job. You didn’t get the partner you wanted. Your body isn’t healthy, and you suffer real pain. You don’t feel utterly and completely loved and accepted anywhere. Your favorite pets pass away. Your children face rejection and disappointment. 

In the past, all of these usual trials—illness, loss, frustration—already made life feel like living on a psycho planet. But now, everything has amped up. Extreme political strife, global instability, and constant scary news make it all feel so much crazier than even in the not-so-recent past. 

Seeing the Higher Perspective 

What exactly are we accepting? Are we crazy? Well…yes, ACIM would say that we are. We are accepting a crazy, ego-based interpretation of life. In fact, as egos, we actually created much of this insanity ourselves. 

Choosing Love and Forgiveness 

It’s all in the perspective we choose. Flip the switch from fear to love and focus on what’s working: the good people who help others, the truths we share in common, the beauty that surrounds us in nature, and the brilliance of humans who have created amazing music, mathematics, literature, and art. 

And beyond that, forgive everything that’s crazy. And I mean everything. These days, it’s pretty much an all-day job—but it has to be done. Every time the crazy starts to peep out at you in the world, forgive it. Let it go. And then, when it shows again—even if it’s five minutes later—take a moment to forgive again. Then return your focus to the love, the good, and the beautiful. 

Choosing this perspective is the first step toward stepping off the psycho planet and into a life rooted in love, gratitude, and forgiveness. 

Want to go deeper into forgiveness? 

Explore how forgiveness reconnects us to divine compassion in Unblocking our Connection to Love . My book, Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness , offers heartfelt guidance, spiritual tools, and real-life practices. Read it on Amazon → 

Let daily affirmations support you too — discover the Forgiveness Metta Card Deck for a gentle morning practice of peace and release. View the deck on Etsy → 

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Let these tools light your path — because forgiveness sets you free. — Sue Pipal

Tuesday, August 12, 2025

Jesus Said To Forgive... Because He Said So

 Why We Sometimes Resist Forgiveness

When you were younger, your mother told you to clean up your room. Maybe you didn’t really see the purpose in having a clean room. Maybe toys and clothes strung all over the floor suited you just fine. But... Mother said so. She told you to clean it up. Period. And if you questioned her, she might have even said, “Because I say so.”

Now, all these years later, you might just realize that she was right all along. Having a clean room actually makes life so much better. It’s easier to find things, it’s more peaceful, and it just feels better to be in a space that’s tidy. Mother knew best.

Just like Mother, Jesus always knows best. When He tells you to forgive, you do it. Not because you understand the full reason right away, but because Jesus said so.

Forgiveness may not always make sense in the moment. It may feel difficult or unfair, especially when someone has wronged you. But just like cleaning your room, forgiveness has a purpose. It clears the clutter from your heart, making space for peace, joy, and love to flow. It sets you free.

Jesus’ Command to Forgive

Jesus didn’t just suggest forgiveness; He commanded it. In the Gospels, He says, “Forgive, and you will be forgiven” (Luke 6:37). A Course in Miracles echoes this: “You who have sought release in many ways must now accept the one true means of release, which is forgiveness."A Course in Miracles, T-9.VII.3:6

Forgiveness Makes Life Better

When Jesus tells us something is crucially important, we trust that He knows best. And just like a clean room, forgiveness ultimately makes our lives better. So, the next time forgiveness feels hard, remember: Jesus said to do it. And like Mother’s wisdom, it’s for your own good.

Want to go deeper into forgiveness?

Let these tools light your path — because forgiveness sets you free.
— Sue Pipal

Friday, March 21, 2025

How to Forgive Cruel World Leaders (Even When It’s Hard)

Cruel world leaders?  It's not anything new.  Throughout history mankind has been led by self-serving, power hungry world leaders who have put their desires above the needs of those they lead.  Wars, poverty, and suffering in many forms are created by singular individuals or small groups who have used their power for their own selfish gains.  


Today not much has changed.  People continue to suffer in many places due to narcissistic leaders who start wars, oppress others or simply deny their people basic rights... all for the gain of power, land, resources or money.  

Why Forgiving Leaders Is So Hard — and So Necessary

From a spiritual perspective, how are we meant to respond?  On the one hand we see the suffering they create.  On the other hand, we know that we must forgive them.  Yes--it's a hard assignment, sometimes distasteful, perhaps one of the most difficult we will be given in life.  But we need to tackle it, so let's go.  

A Spiritual Perspective on Global Suffering

First, let’s zoom out and simply accept, as A Course in Miracles teaches, that we never truly know what anything is for here.  As souls, do we finally collectively evolve when we look upon all the horrible suffering in the world and choose love?  Could it be possible that suffering exists as a catalyst to help the people of the world to join together to create a better world and choose love, sharing, service and oneness finally and forever over fear, hatred and self service? Maybe, just maybe, these challenging world leaders exist to help us evolve.  They provide the contrast as what we don't want from which we can choose anew.  We might see them as great learning tools for society as a whole.  

Second, we need to know deep in our hearts that every one of us, no matter how seemingly difficult, ugly or bullying is actually part of the great oneness.  We are all sourced from God.  We are all joined together as one and all minds are connected.  It's true that when we come here to this crazy confusing planet many of us forget who we are, get lost in the madness and behave badly.  But that behavior does not change who we really are, our true identity as a Child of God.  It just means that we are temporarily not aware of who we are.

Remember the words of Jesus on the cross, "Forgive them, Father, for they know not what they do".  This is an important key to forgiveness, knowing that ultimately people might do better if they knew better.  

It's Okay to Feel the Pain

So here's how I forgive world leaders.  Often, I'll catch a headline on my ipad or I'll hear a story on NPR as I'm driving around in my car.  First, I stop and feel my feelings.  It's okay to acknowledge the pain.  For me, lately, its often specifically grief and sadness that I feel over the suffering today in places like the wars in Gaza and Ukraine, the hunger in Africa, the displacement of people such as in Myanmar, the denial of women's rights in Iran and Afghanistan and so many other places and issues.  (And of course, the painful schism right here at home in the US!)

Notice When You Judge  

I may also notice myself judging and condemning various people or groups.  Perhaps I might think something like, "I can't believe _______ is doing such a cruel thing.  He is a selfish bully who is only out for himself and is completely blinded about how his decisions affect others in the world."  

All right.  Take a beat.  

It's time to just notice that I am judging.  No need for me to criticize or scold myself for this.  I just notice and maybe take a breath or two to get myself back into my heart space.  And, by the way, I must be sure not to get so activated that I go into victim mode along with those harmed by these leaders.  I need to dig deep to control my thoughts and immediately stop all that negative jabber thinking in my brain right here.  I ban thoughts like, "That's so unfair.  He's a hideous man.  I hate him."  I use my breath to get myself into a calmer space of neutrality where I can do the important forgiveness work I need to do. 


A Forgiveness Prayer for World Leaders

After I allow myself a moment to acknowledge my feelings followed by a little breathing and mind calming,  I'll start to think or say something like:

 "World leader or power group (fill in any appropriate name) _______________, You are Spirit, whole and innocent.  I forgive you.  I release you.  I bless you with love."  

I might repeat or chant this for awhile until I feel a release in my heart.  

Then I simply go on with my day until the next time something happens and I feel activated again. I might have to repeat this little forgiveness trick every time I hear the news about this particular leader or part of the world.  That's okay.  I just keep noticing my feelings and working on my forgiveness.  If it's a daily thing or even something I need to do many times a day, that's just fine.  I just keep forgiving and converting my fearful, judgmental, angry, sad thoughts into forgiveness and love.  That's my job in all this.  It's the way I can be the most helpful to the world.  And it's your job too.  It's your mission, should you decide to accept it.  

Sometimes, that little short saying just isn't enough to clear through the anguish I feel at what is happening in the world.  In that case I pull out my big forgiveness prayer.  It always does the job for me although sometimes I have to do it two or three times to obtain peace. Here it is:  

"World Leader_____________, You are Spirit, whole and innocent.  I forgive you, I release you, I bless you with love. You are a child of God, perfect, whole and complete.  God created you exactly in his own image.  You are pure Love, you are pure Joy, you are perfect Peace.  God loves you infinitely.  You are God's beloved only Son.  I forgive you. I release you.  I bless you with love."

Blessed relief.  That feels better!

What About Their Supporters?

But wait, there's more...what do I do about supporters of selfish World Leaders?  Some of these leaders have actually been voted into power!  We forgive their supporters, too, of course, even if we can't relate at all to their opinions and choices.  Remember that God gave us all the gift of free will.  Free will is a law of the universe.  It seems that it was important to Him that we all be given the chance to choose how we perceive the world to be.  Everybody gets to choose their own favorite ride in this crazy Disneyland world.  Accept that.  Get over it.  Let them be.  Stop judging.  And go ahead and use one of the forgiveness practices above to forgive them.  

Best of all, you'll feel better when you do.  

Why Forgiveness Helps You

Remember that forgiveness releases you, too.  It's actually a gift you give to yourself.  Another law of the Universe--you get what you give.  When you forgive and offer love, what comes back to you is peace.  

Want to go Deeper into Forgiveness?

  • Read this posting that explains more on why forgiveness is our best pathway to peace and happiness:  Unblocking our Connection to Love.  
  • My book, “Forgive and Be Happy,” offers gentle guidance, spiritual reflections, and real-world practices to help you heal, release, and return to peace.
    Explore the book on Amazon →, Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness .  
  • Make forgiveness a daily practice. Let the Forgiveness Metta Cards guide you each morning with affirmations and soul-soothing reminders to help you release and bless. A beautiful companion to your journal or meditation time.  Take a look on Etsy →
Let these tools support your journey — because forgiveness sets you free.
--Sue Pipal

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Grace Period

Sometimes, when feelings are recently raw, it's difficult to forgive right away...and that's okay.  It's okay to let a little time heal over the pain before getting down and dirty with the real forgiveness work.  Sometimes we just don't have the strength to face it right away and we know that if we even so much as try to, we'll melt down or be unable to do whatever it is we have to do to get through the day.



Raw feelings can be very painful.  It's actually a good thing to honor our feelings and sit with them a bit.  I always allow myself to experience the sadness or the anger for awhile.  Processing and working through feelings is a good thing (And, by the way, we're not going to stay in this stage for very long anyway.  In a little while, we'll be doing our usual forgiveness work.)

While we're feeling raw, however, we can help hasten the healing while we're mentally shoring up the strength to do the real work.  When we are utterly broken and wounded and obsessing about what happened, we can always practice turning all our thoughts, hurts and fears over to Spirit as often as possible.  I like to just give those thoughts over whenever they come into my mind.  Just saying the words, "Holy Spirit, I am giving this ________ over to you", is all we really have to do.  I'm pretty visual, so sometimes I like to picture a beautiful white and shining marble altar that I can lay my burdens down on.  Once I've placed my burdens on the altar they are surrounded by white light and dissolved.

I also find that simply saying the words, "I forgive you, I release you, I bless you with love" repeatedly (as one would an affirmation) helps alleviate some of the pain.  This is not my final forgiveness work, of course, but it is an easy start and helps me to ease into the forgiveness.



Once I actually start to do the real forgiveness, I find occasionally that I will do one of my forgiveness process and complete the forgiveness, only to find myself feeling utterly angry and hurt all over again a few hours later.  When this happens, I just repeat the forgiveness.  This can go on for days and weeks and sometimes, if the wound is big enough, years.  Again, that's okay.  We can only give it our best effort.  Our intention to heal is what's important here.

Also, asking Spirit to help us turn our feelings of anger, hurt and fear to love will often help us to make important progress.

There's no denying it, life can be painful at times and no-one escapes this.  However, supporting ourselves with understanding and acceptance as we go about the job of healing and forgiving is the fastest way back to peace.


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Tuesday, July 15, 2014

What is Unforgiven is Reposited in Our Bodies

"Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache, and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life."
  - Joan Lunden

It's true.  The more we forgive, the more peaceful we feel.  And the more we forgive (which heals our minds), the more we actually heal our physical bodies, too. 


Our bodies are repositories for past pain and hurt.  Unfortunately, if we hang onto these old harmful memories, we are also holding onto the pain and, over time, that pain is likely to transform into disease.  





Using forgiveness, we can clear our bodies of the physical symptoms that are left over from old emotional hurts.


There are several ways to remove old deposited pain from our bodies. For serious past wounds, I find it helpful to use several forgiveness processes. 


First, if I can pinpoint an event in my life that caused the wound, I'll forgive all the people involved.  It only takes me a few minutes to do this and I always use the same words and thoughts.  They are simple to learn.  Most importantly, time and time again, they have helped me to switch my mind over from fear (hurt and anger) to love.  If you're not sure how to forgive people that have caused you injury, you might want to download an audio recording I've made to guide you though this process. Once you listen to it a few times, you'll be able to forgive anyone easily, too. This process helps you forgive individual people on a mental level



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Next, I'll tackle the physical component of forgiveness.  I'll go to work on the places in my body those old painful memories are stored.  I do this by remembering carefully all the details of the past event.  I try to put myself back in that moment of hurt and anger and I try to jack up my memories and corresponding emotions as much as possible.  

As I re-experience this old wound, I observe my body, noticing any stress symptoms that might show up. Sometimes this is a racing heartbeat, a tightening of the chest, a feeling of warmth rising in my head or a stabbing pain in my stomach.  The physical symptoms are different for different past hurts.  

Now I just sit and observe, amplifying the emotions and memories as much as I can.  Sometimes the pain moves around and changes.  Other times, memories from similar events that occurred in other times and places come to mind.  I allow this all to flow through my mind and my body, simply observing and feeling whatever feelings come up.  It's important to let this process run its course thoroughly so that the memories will dissipate and lift from the body.  

There is a more detailed description of this in my book, "Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness".  I've also created another guided audio meditation for this process.  It's easy to download to your computer.  You can then upload it to your phone so you can use it with your headphones whenever you have a quiet moment to yourself.  I like to do a lot of my forgiveness work in bed at night before sleep but you can do this anywhere you can find the quiet you need to concentrate. 

Easy to use, guided meditation to forgive and release physical symptoms from past hurts. $2.99


EFT, or emotional freedom technique is a process where you speak words that describe painful memories and feelings while tapping on acupressure points.  This tapping somehow disconnects and clears through the pain stored in the body from the memory.  It seems odd, but surprisingly, it works.  EFT has become a widely respected technique used by therapists around the world.  To learn more, watch this quickie video with Jessica Ortner.  

EFT is an effective technique for clearing stored and painful memories from the body and I do feel that this is a form of forgiveness.  However, the most healing work is mental.  It is important to combine EFT with some prior deep mental work such as the two guided processes above.  In this way, we are forgiving and clearing first in the mind and then following up with a clearance and healing in physical form.  

Of course, if we heal the mental, eventually the body will follow.  With EFT, we are just speeding up the process.