The ego loves to set us up in situations that create chaos in our lives. The ego loves problems. After all, while we are busy searching around in our earthly lives for the solutions to problems, we are distracted from our true purpose here, which is love.
Earlier this week I wrote about a classic ego set-up that a lot of us experience. This is something I call "The rug gets pulled out from underneath me". See here. This almost always happens when we are the most elated about our lives. Just when everything is going great, it all changes in an instant and everything goes horribly bad.
Another common ego set-up is "I can't win no matter what I do". In this set-up, we have people in our life who are going to be very upset with us if we handle things one way and other people (just as important to us) who are going to be upset if we handle things the other way. There are no alternative choices that will satisfy everyone.
I have a friend that is in this conundrum right now. She and her sister receive a modest yearly stipend from her mother's trust. There seems to be a problem with it. Her sister has hired an expensive lawyer to fix it and expects my friend to share in the costs. My friend's husband believes that by the time the lawyer fixes the problem, his fees will eat up the stipend. Her sister is angry at her because her husband is involved. Her husband is angry because her sister is handling it badly, in his opinion. If my friend let's her sister handle it, her husband will be hurt and angry with her. If she gets her husband involved, her sister will be hurt and angry with her. She can't win.
We all have themes we're working on in life. I see this same friend in similar situations where she can't win occasionally. This is her theme.
When you find yourself in ego set-ups, the only thing you can do is turn the whole mess over to Spirit. You can do this two ways. The first choice...you can just use words and make a statement something like this, "Holy Spirit, I am giving this whole situation regarding (X) over to you. I know that you will know what to do with it and I trust you to find a solution that is in everyone's best interest."
Alternatively, if you visualize easily, you can create a big beautiful white marble altar in your mind. Light it up with divine love. Make it gorgeous, glowing and brilliant. Just place your problem on the altar and watch it be consumed with heavenly white flames.
After you turn your problem over, what do you do? Why, nothing, of course. Spirit's got your back! If Spirit decides there is some additional action for you to take, you will be informed. Until that time, just rest in trust and enjoy the peace of knowing that it is not your problem any longer. Let it go. Release and forgive.
Turning your problems over is most definitely a form of forgiveness, but there's more forgiveness work we can do here. When we find a pattern of ego set-ups in our lives, we need to do some soul searching to figure out why they're happening. What events occurred early in our lives that caused us to create an unconscious false belief that we can't win? Until we go back and really look at this false belief, we will continue to experience "can't win" ego set ups on a regular basis. This will take some deep probing and thought. However, if we ask Spirit for direction and knowing, we will receive the answers we search for.
Then how do we forgive whatever we find in our past? For something like this, I like to use the "Feel the Feelings" process in Chapter Three of "Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness". An easy to use download of this process in the form of a guided meditation is available, Forgive Your Past NOW. For just $2.99 you will be shown a process that you can use over and over to forgive all kinds of wounds and hurts from your past. These old injuries are wreaking havoc in your present. Why not do a little forgiveness work on your past and make your life work better for you today?
Earlier this week I wrote about a classic ego set-up that a lot of us experience. This is something I call "The rug gets pulled out from underneath me". See here. This almost always happens when we are the most elated about our lives. Just when everything is going great, it all changes in an instant and everything goes horribly bad.
Another common ego set-up is "I can't win no matter what I do". In this set-up, we have people in our life who are going to be very upset with us if we handle things one way and other people (just as important to us) who are going to be upset if we handle things the other way. There are no alternative choices that will satisfy everyone.
I have a friend that is in this conundrum right now. She and her sister receive a modest yearly stipend from her mother's trust. There seems to be a problem with it. Her sister has hired an expensive lawyer to fix it and expects my friend to share in the costs. My friend's husband believes that by the time the lawyer fixes the problem, his fees will eat up the stipend. Her sister is angry at her because her husband is involved. Her husband is angry because her sister is handling it badly, in his opinion. If my friend let's her sister handle it, her husband will be hurt and angry with her. If she gets her husband involved, her sister will be hurt and angry with her. She can't win.
We all have themes we're working on in life. I see this same friend in similar situations where she can't win occasionally. This is her theme.
When you find yourself in ego set-ups, the only thing you can do is turn the whole mess over to Spirit. You can do this two ways. The first choice...you can just use words and make a statement something like this, "Holy Spirit, I am giving this whole situation regarding (X) over to you. I know that you will know what to do with it and I trust you to find a solution that is in everyone's best interest."
Alternatively, if you visualize easily, you can create a big beautiful white marble altar in your mind. Light it up with divine love. Make it gorgeous, glowing and brilliant. Just place your problem on the altar and watch it be consumed with heavenly white flames.
After you turn your problem over, what do you do? Why, nothing, of course. Spirit's got your back! If Spirit decides there is some additional action for you to take, you will be informed. Until that time, just rest in trust and enjoy the peace of knowing that it is not your problem any longer. Let it go. Release and forgive.
Turning your problems over is most definitely a form of forgiveness, but there's more forgiveness work we can do here. When we find a pattern of ego set-ups in our lives, we need to do some soul searching to figure out why they're happening. What events occurred early in our lives that caused us to create an unconscious false belief that we can't win? Until we go back and really look at this false belief, we will continue to experience "can't win" ego set ups on a regular basis. This will take some deep probing and thought. However, if we ask Spirit for direction and knowing, we will receive the answers we search for.
Then how do we forgive whatever we find in our past? For something like this, I like to use the "Feel the Feelings" process in Chapter Three of "Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness". An easy to use download of this process in the form of a guided meditation is available, Forgive Your Past NOW. For just $2.99 you will be shown a process that you can use over and over to forgive all kinds of wounds and hurts from your past. These old injuries are wreaking havoc in your present. Why not do a little forgiveness work on your past and make your life work better for you today?
