Allowance is not a passive acceptance of things as they are, but a recognition that there is something quite beautiful at work. There is an intelligence, a love, that knows you better than you know yourself and is presenting you, moment to moment, with jewels and gems and blessings and lessons that something is weaving the tapestry of your life, and nothing is happening by accident. -- "The Way of Mastery", p. 68
A Course in Miracles tells us that we never know what anything is actually for. This means that many of the events in our lives are planned behind the scenes for us. Sometimes, when we are in the midst of one of the painful events that come up during the course of our lives, it's really hard to understand that this was gently planned for our greater good. In fact, often, we simply just can't see anything about the situation that feels that any good can come from it at all.
However, as they say, "time will tell". As the years pass, we can look back on our most painful events and understand the why of it. We see what we learned. We see how we became a stronger, better person because of it. Or, we see that we had the opportunity to learn, but didn't accept it.
No worries. When we don't learn our lessons the first time, they come around again. And again, and again. They look and smell a little differently, but they are just another version of the same darn lesson giving us yet another go at it. We keep getting the lesson until we get it.
Life really is a classroom and it's all there for us. Trust the process. Accept what comes up. Turn anything painful and all fearful thinking over to the Holy Spirit. As Jennifer Hadley likes to say, "Let the Holy Spirit do the heavy lifting". Turning it over is an act of allowing. It's the miracle in action, that moment when we choose love over fear.
Then examine these events to see how you can learn and grow from them. Try to keep your acceptance level high, your loving attitude intact and your mood in the positive. This is how we grow. This is how we become who we were really meant to be. This is how we uncover our real truth. We are spirit. We are really only love.