I often talk about "flipping the switch" from love to fear. Forgiveness happens at the very moment that we flip that switch.
One moment we are feeling thoughts of fear; anger, hurt, resentment, frustration, annoyance, irritation, victim-hood, upset, pain, rage and most importantly
a sense that we are ultimately unloveable. We flip that switch by dropping the fear thoughts of separation and isolation and replacing them with love thoughts. We don't have to go all the way to full love, the switch happens the moment we start up the road to love; sympathy, understanding, compassion, hopefulness and
a sense of sharing and oneness.
"Love is also grounded in an attitude of compassion. Compassion is necessary for our survival and our evolution. Compassion is an attitude that upholds the memories of wholeness for people when they are lost in separation, pain and conflict. Compassion is love's holding environment. It is how love whispers to us, "I will remember the truth of who you are even when you cannot remember this for yourself." This compassion sees through what Einstein called the "optical delusion" of separation. Einstein taught us that we can free ourselves from identifying with this ego-consciousness by 'widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature and its beauty.'" --Robert Holden in Loveability p. 29 (emphasis in italics are mine)
And just what exactly is
"the truth of who you are when you cannot remember this for yourself"? Everyone's truth is the same--that we are all one, that we all are a part of God's creation, that we are all one thing and one thing only...love. We are perfect, whole and complete. We are created by God in his own image. God loves us infinitely and our one and only task is to extend this love by returning it to God and to each other.
When we flip the switch from fear to love, all we need to do is acknowledge this
truth for the other person. We simply need to know that they are a Child of God. In a sense we are actually switching from the smallness of our ego minds to a much bigger and more truthful picture, in fact we are switching to the whole picture. It's a matter of changing the perspective of our thinking and broadening our minds so that we see and think as God himself does.
This life of separation is only a
dream our egos created anyway. It's not real. Nothing involving fear really exists. Fear is only an invention of the mind. it is an illusion. Yes, living here on 3D planet earth, we
think it's real, but we've only
forgotten the truth that we are all one and that in that oneness, we are love.
"To love and be loved is the true joy of every human heart. There is no higher happiness than this. Alas, in any human dramas there are also wounds and disappointments, mistakes, betrayals, pain and heartache. Even so, love comes to our rescue. Love offers us a solution, which is a process called forgiveness. Forgiveness is an angel that comes to us when we sleep and wakes us from the hypnosis. It is the ground of love that supports you when you are falling, breaking apart, and coming undone. Forgiveness undoes the blocks to loves awareness. It shows you that a universe of love doesn't ever stop, even when all you can see is pain. Love always loves you, even when you can't or won't love yourself." --Robert Holding Loveability p. 29
Oddly, flipping the switch from fear to forgiveness is surprisingly easy once you get some practice with it. It's true that when you are in the throes of anger and hurt, the thought of forgiving can feel very distasteful. But once you learn that
a feeling of love and relief flows over you with forgiveness, you will become more motivated to do it sooner.
Also, there is that little matter of increasing annoyances. While you are in a state of separation and amplifying those fear feelings by cherishing the anger and hurt,
your 3D earthly life will reflect this separation. This is the time that you will stub your toe, lose an important business contract, upset the feelings of those you care about and wake up with a bad hair day. This is absolutely true, and if you don't believe me about this yet, just watch how it plays out in your life.
So, learn to get over it quickly. Drop the feelings of fear and let the hurt and anger switch over to love as quickly as you are able to. Remember that when you give love, you get love. Find the love and happiness you are seeking. It's there waiting for you and all you have to do to receive it is practice forgiveness.
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