"Why what could she have done, being what she is?"--YeatsI think it's important that when trying to forgive others, we always keep in mind what they are. When people do things that scream idiocy in our minds, we need to take a moment and look at who they are. Yes, their actions may seem so unbelievably, obviously insane from our perspective. However we need to take a time-out from that very same perspective. We need to pause and look at it in a different way, from their perspective.
Who are they, really? What events from their past have informed their viewpoint on the world. We all have mental blocks that keep us from seeing truth. What are theirs?
An example of a mental block could be a belief that the things we want in life are always being taken from us. A person might believe this because this has been the way their lives have unfolded until now. And, the more they believe something like this, the more they will see this very thing being played out in their lives. They will experience loss after loss. If this were your life, would you perhaps grasp irrationally at things that others have. After all, you need to grab hard to get anything in life if everything that you care about gets taken from you. A person who believes in loss might take from others what is not theirs to take.
A few other mental blocks are beliefs such as:
- I am never good enough.
- I am not lovable.
- I am not worthy.
- I always get the smallest, worst, little bit.
- Nobody takes care of me.
- The world is out to get me.
- There is not enough to go around.
- I am ugly.
- I am stupid.
- I am always sick.
There are so many mental blocks that they are too numerous to mention, but you can see where these sorts of beliefs create all kinds of behavior patterns that are unhealthy.
When you find yourself in the pathway of someone else's unhealthy behavior, let yourself do a little mental switch up. Take on your trespassers viewpoint for a few moments. What are their deep fears and pains? Why are they doing what they're doing?
You don't have to condone their actions or agree with them in any way. I'm only asking you to step into their shoes for just a moment and just ask yourself the question, "Why?"
Once you see the situation from their perspective, remember that you have your own mental blocks and that sometimes they cause you to act out inappropriately. Yes, you do.
Now, remember that we are all really the same. We're all a bit of Spirit spending time on earth. Everyone of us has been created by the Divine in its own image. In our real reality, we are all perfect. We are all only love.
This crazy earth creates situations in which some of us win and some of us lose. It sets us against each other. It teaches us to behave badly in order to protect ourselves. Gary Renard loves to call this place "psycho planet" and what else would you call a place where pain, sadness, humiliation, illness, violence and war are all the norm? But this is not who we really are.
We come from love. We are going back to a place that is only love. This is a brief little dream. Let it go. Know who you really are. Know who everyone else here really is. Choose the love that is the real truth of you.
